A question I keep getting asked is, 'How are the kids feeling about the move?'
And to be honest, they're all pretty excited. That's not to say there haven't been big emotions at times, or sad feelings about leaving what's familiar. And of course, it doesn't mean everything will unfold smoothly on the other side (that's still to be seen). But overall, there have been very few tears so far - and quite a lot of excitement.
Our children are currently 10, 8, 6, 4 and 2 years old: Noah, Kaia, Finn, Louie and Isla. We're moving with school-aged kids who have strong friendships, established routines, and growing personalities that need nurturing. It's a big deal - for all of us. But there are a few things we've done that I believe are helping, and I'd love to share them with you.
Involve Them Early
Only a few weeks after my husband and I made the decision to move, we sat our three eldest children down and shared the news. We didn't present it as a closed plan, but rather invited them into the conversation. We talked about when and where and for how long - and even what might come after.
This early involvement gave them time to digest the idea. Yes, there were lots of tears that first day. But is also gave them space to feel heard. They were part of the decision from the beginning, and I truly believe that changed everything.
Stick Together as a Team
We've reinforced the idea that, no matter what, we are a team. Our little family is in this together. We've reminded them that everything might feel different for a while - but we'll always have each other. That message has given them a strong emotional anchor.
Connect with the Destination
One of the things that has made this particular move easier is the fact that we're moving home - to one of our homes, at least. Australia is where their dad is from, and it's a place they know and love. They'll be surrounded by cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandparents - and that's something they can genuinely look forward to. But you can connect with your destination in many ways!
Lead by Example
My husband and I have both moved many times, and we're naturally optimistic and confident in transitions like this. Children are incredibly perceptive, and I've noticed how much our energy shapes their experience.
When they see us feeling calm and excited, it reassures them that this change is a good one. I think our attitude has been the single biggest factor in helping them feel secure.
Practical Tips: Before, During & After
Here are a few practical things that have helped us - or that I'm planning for this next phase:
- Keep communication open. Let them know their feelings are normal and welcome.
- Start a penpal system with best friends back home - letters, postcards or emails.
- Use technology mindfully. A kids' smartwatch can be a great tool to keep in touch.
- Explore new activities together. Help your child find new extracurriculars they're excited about.
- Make it personal. Talk about their new bedroom, a birthday party theme, or which teddies to bring.
- Share visuals. Shem them photos and videos of the new rental home and explore the neighbourhood together on Google Maps.
- Celebrate the new culture. Is you're moving to a country with a new language or climate, get curious and excited about it as a family.
- Leave room for adjustment. If possible, plan to arrive with time to settle in before school starts.
- Set up their rooms first. This helps them feel ownership and comfort from day one.
- Maintain routines. Mealtimes and bedtimes bring comfort in the unfamiliar.
- Help build community. Host a casual get-together, join a local WhatsApp group, or organise a playdate.
- Lean on support. Especially in international/expat communities - there's often a lot available.
Be Kind to Yourself
Most importantly, be patient with yourself and your children. Moving internationally is a massive transition - not just the move itself, but the lead-up and the settling-in phase too.
There will be moments of joy, exhaustion, tears, laughter, and uncertainty. And that's okay. You're doing something incredibly brave. Trust the process, keep the communication open, and remember - you're not alone.
Stella x
